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Wednesday, May 11, 2011

LET'S TALK ABOUT FAMILY DRAMA...HOW TO AVOID IT BEFORE YOU GET TO THE ALTAR!

 Over the weekend I decided to head to the movies to check out Jumping the Broom (for research purposes, of course:-) but clearly so did a lot of others because it ranked No. 3 in the box office.  Not to give away too much about the movie details for those of you have not seen it yet, it's clearly a classic love story about a girl who meets the man of her dreams. Then the couple begins planning an elegant wedding in the exclusive backdrop of Martha's Vineyard.  Who doesn't love to see a beautiful love story unfold right?  However the movie presents a very common wedding stressor for couples no matter your family status, background, or budget...dealing with FAMILY!!!


HOW ARE YOU KEEPING THE PEACE WITH YOUR FUTURE IN-LAWS WHILE PLANNING YOUR WEDDING???

I wish that I could wave a magic wand and whisk away all drama  but alas I cannot (so much for wishful thinking).  Much to my dismay weddings and funerals tend to bring out the best and worst out of family.  So then how should one handle the pressures of wedding planning and dealing with all the extra drama that the family is beginning to throw your way in buckets???

Just a few suggestions to consider:

Yes, it's YOUR day but let's be mindful that a wedding is a celebration of the union of two people.  Those two people came from two different families who both are equally excited about such a wonderful moment in your lives. Think about coordinating a casual event that will allow both families to get to know one another before the wedding.

Your mom (or mother-in-law) is overly involved in your planning and you are losing your vision!  Wedding planning much like marriage is about making compromises.  Pick and choose your battles wisely, sometimes you can easily incorporate your mom's ideas in ways that make both of you happy.  

You have a relative or close friend that loves to share after a few cocktails.  Just the thought of this one makes me cringe for some couples but this is where you'll need to establish a "plan of action" for just such an occasion. From assigning a "wing man" to run interference in the event that inappropriate comments start to surface to cutting the drinks off to said offender. 

Every girl is entitled to her "perfect" wedding but more importantly a wedding is about joining two new families and what better gift to begin a happy marriage than the gift of a peace between the new families!


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